February 13, 2021
Why this is actually the BEST compliment Ever! that will leave the haters punching the air!
So this is a true story, in fact, it just happened a few days ago.
I was minding my business, going about my day when I hear someone with whom I’ve never had a conversation with in my life say that I “think I’m soo Perfect!”.
Yup, I’m serious! Here’s a glimpse of how it went down:
Me: *minding my business*
Her: Oh, Jen thinks she’s so perfect!
Me overhearing this: *pause* *gives genuine heart-felt smile*
Also Me: Thank you!
Yes, you read that right!
I paused, looked the person dead in the face, gave a genuine smile, and said Thank You! (and actually meant it!)
Now here’s why I said thank you, and why you should too!
First, let me address the obvious elephant in the room: No I don’t think I’m perfect in the dictionary sense (I’ll explain below).
In fact, no one is perfect in the traditional way besides Beyonce, and it should never be used against us as a diss.
We are all born perfectly imperfect, and it’s these imperfections (or differences) that actually make us perfect in our own unique designs.
So now that I got that out of the way: Here’s why you should never ever take offense to petty blows like this:
Because it is a sign that you are doing something right! In fact, you are doing something SO right, that it makes others feel inadequate about areas in their own lives. Hence the shade.
But why would this make other’s feel inadequate?.. Here’s the short answer…
Comments like this are a direct reflection of the speaker’s own wounds that need healing. It has nothing at all to do with you.
Clearly, this person is living in the mindset of scarcity, known as “Victim consciousness”, it’s the lowest stage of consciousness where one has constant blame stories, constantly blaming outside forces for their lack of success’, always has an excuse, very defensive, very negative, always has some kind of drama or turmoil in their lives, and oftentimes, just plain miserable.
Now let me explain why this is actually a beautiful compliment in disguise.
Reason 1: To further my point above, a comment such as this clearly means that you are doing something right, in fact, you doing something so right that others are taking notice. And that is something you should never feel ashamed about.
Reason 2: I take things day by day. I wake up every morning striving to be positive, striving to be optimistic, striving to contribute to others in some way, and striving to take at least one step that will bring me closer to my goals.
And if I can make it through my day staying on this path, then I consider that to be living the most “Perfect” version of myself that I can at that moment, and “perfectly” aligned with my purpose.
So with all that being said, the next time someone wants to be a petty hater and say something like, “Look at her, she thinks she’s so perfect!”
I will simply smile and say “thank you!” then carry on with my day. And so should you!
I would love to hear if my story resonated with you, please drop me a line and let me know about a time you dealt had to deal with someone else’s insecurities, and what realizations you made with it!
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Love & Air Hugs,
J.
Great article!