Hey Friend!
The holiday season is creeping upon us, it’s almost Thanksgiving here in Toronto, soon after it will be Thanksgiving in the USA, then before you know it – Christmas! And that makes me think of all the gatherings we’ll have with friends and loved ones.
I’m sad to say that for a lot of people these holiday dinners and parties are hard to get through because of low vibe energy and toxic people.
I just want to let y’all know that I know firsthand just how shitty it feels to try to keep positive in a low-vibe crowd.
You know those ones.
The ones that are putting down others’ goals and accomplishments like it’s nothing special.
Often hating on other people for no reason besides jealousy.
The ones who are always spilling the tea on other’s business.
Yeah – that’s the type of low-vibe that I mean.
These could be people that you work with, grew up with, or in some cases, the people that raised you.
Trying to stay positive when surrounded by negative people is a total drag. It weighs down on your energy like a ton of bricks in the rain. You can feel absolutely exhausted after a session with this crowd, and if you let it, it can drag your vibe and energy down too.
Now, unless you have a Harry Potter-style magic cloak with the power of invisibility gifted by your wizard father, there is usually no way to escape these people and their negativity, especially when they are your friends and family.
Never fear – I’m here to sprinkle three useful tips on you like the Saltbae of the mindset world, and help you keep a clear head during your holiday events.
First off- don’t worry! I’m not going to tell you to stop hanging out with these people or give them an ultimatum. That’s a personal decision that only you can make, and it might be hard for them to change their ways. Instead, I wanted to share some tips you can do to make your experience better when you’re around them and prevent negativity from projecting onto you.
Tip #1 – Pretend like those negative vibes don’t exist! It’s really not that hard considering they’re only in your head anyways–you created them because of how much attention you’re giving them. Turn them off. And find something to focus on that makes YOU happy! Once you feel good inside again, it will reflect on the outside world too–and more positive people will come into your life as well.
Tip #2 – Remember that you can’t change anyone else’s mood, but you can always control your own. If someone is trying to bring you down, just try telling them “I’m sorry that happened.” And then walk away from the situation before anything gets worse. Engaging in the story will only pull you in deeper.
Tip #3 – Find one person who is also having a good time and focus on them instead of everyone around you being grumpy or stressed out. Startup a convo or make a new friend with someone who looks like they are enjoying themselves.
Remember, if you find yourself in a room full of negative people, do your best to stay upbeat and positive. It can be tough at first but eventually, it will become second nature.
The more you practice it, the less likely it is that you will be affected negatively by Debby Downers, and you might even see their demeanors improve – that’s because we tend to mimic other peoples’ moods without even realizing it! And normally when people love to gossip, they usually want to chat with people who love gossip too, so when they get used to the “positive outlook” you, they might just do a complete swerve and miss you with all that mess.
A tool I always use to improve my mood when I feel myself slipping is the emotion scale developed by Abraham Hicks. In my opinion, it is the simplest and quickest way to raise your vibration. You can take a look at my version of this scale in my resource vault for free by clicking here.
Later,
-J. xoxo
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