Victim Consciousness part 1
March 1, 2021
One of my favorite quotes ever goes like this:
“We want to change our lives, yet we refuse to change our minds; therefore, we remain bound.”
When I first heard this quote, probably about 15years ago, something about it resonated with me instantly, and at the time I thought I understood what it meant. Poor silly me! Back then I was so deep in the victim consciousness state and didn’t even know it. I was soo involved with believing that things were happening to me and everything was out of my control. I had no idea what this statement actually meant and life-changing its message truly was.
Let me tell you what I mean by, I was chin-deep in victim consciousness because there is a good chance that either you or someone you know is in the same situation. And as the opening quote states; you can never elevate your life until you elevate your mind.
So here are some key facts to be aware of, when identifying victim consciousness:
1) Everything is happening to them. This refers to the endless line of excuses for not moving forward in their lives, where they are always a victim to external forces. Something or someone is always at fault and they are just a victim, they are constantly blaming others and often have repeating blame stories that they carry with them throughout their lives. Their life’s motto seems to be FML! Everything is eff’d up and nothing is fair.
2) They are often very defensive. Victims often become upset easily and are regularly complaining about anything and everything.
3) Have very drama-filled lives. We all know those people who always seem to either be in some sort of drama or know all the deets on others drama. They are up to date on all the scandals in people’s lives and waste no time adding negative sediments to those fires.
4) People in the victim mindset often avoid challenges and puts minimal effort into their endeavors. This state will always try to take the easy easy out, and half-ass things, and shies away from things that are different to them.
I know how hard it is to realize and accept these characteristics in themselves because often it’s the victim mindset that doesn’t allow you to take responsibility for your situations and even responsibility for your own mental states. So how do you identify victim consciousness in yourself, and take the first steps forward?
First, take a look at your number one blame story. The story that you cling to when things aren’t going as planned in your life. Your go-to story that you use as a comfort blanket to not push yourself out of your comfort zone.
Become aware of this story, write it down, journal on it, and most important, become aware of when and where it comes into play.
The more aware you become of how often you use this story, the more control you will have over where responsibility is being placed.
Most importantly, when you started to become aware of your blame story, you can start to rewrite it.
Here’s an exercise I want you to try, take your journal, and make note of the blame stories that find yourself clinging to. Then I want you to write about what your life would look like without these stories. What would you be doing differently? What would your typical day look like without having this energy around you? How would you relate to yourself and the world around you, without these stories? And to take this exercise a step further, while still acknowledging your go-to blame story, write about ways that you can still take steps towards your goals anyways.
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Love & Air Hugs,
J.